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Rejection Sensitivity in Gifted and Twice-Exceptional Children

102 points · 79 comments · actfrench

  1. cgio · · focus · HN ↗
    An almost trifecta. I am almost gifted, autism and adhd ( or add, you wouldn’t call me hyperactive…). My trick was to “use” my autism to filter out rejection clues. I am still sensitive in a sense, can get obsessed over detail of something that could be perceived as a rejection, but I actively refuse parsing anything as such. People tell me I am over-confident to a fault.
    1. notrealyme123 · · focus · HN ↗
      How do you use autism to filter something? Did you train this?
      1. JonChesterfield · · focus · HN ↗
        That's the wrong baseline. If you start out oblivious that people are telling you things (with their expression, or with the noises they're making) you get that filter for free. The work is in _not_ filtering out such things. First you have to realise that's a thing (somehow? good luck with the bootstrap), then learn to pay attention, then try to make sense of the result.
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