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1. accountrequired · 1790825661 · focus · HN ↗

   There is an argument that people should marry when they are (*both*) younger. More time to be fruitful and multiply. More time together, instead of encouraging high "body counts" and high-risk behavior. Delaying marriage is not as altruistic as it sounds.

   1. para_parolu · 1790825924 · focus · HN ↗

      It also results in people who get to raise kids while having zero adult life experience.

      1. Aeolun · 1790826897 · focus · HN ↗

         Call me misguided, but I’m not sure adult life experience helps a lot with raising kids. It just means you grow out of touch.

         1. stnikolauswagne · 1790827688 · focus · HN ↗

            33 year old with a kid due in a few months time:

            I would not want 23 year old me raising a child, I was way too status and money obsessed then and could not provide my son with the model of what I personally deem a good man.

            My wife had (too) young parents and it left lasting damage, they dragged her into interpersonal spats and their worries about money before she had the tools to properly process it.

            1. Aeolun · 1790828651 · focus · HN ↗

               The question is if that has gotten better over time? Because age doesn’t really change all that much in my experience.

               1. unsnap_biceps · 1790830080 · focus · HN ↗

                  30 year old me looks back at 20 year old me and wishes he had known better. 40 year old me looks back at 30 year old me and wishes he had known better. 50 year old me looks back at 40 year old me and wishes he had known better. 60 year old me looks back at 50 year old me and wishes he had known better.

                  I believe generally most people do grow and mature over time. Sometimes it's not that obvious externally or even internally without reflection, but it's a natural part of aging IMHO.

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