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1. purplepatrick · 1790817358 · focus · HN ↗

   Cute. Of course, beyond basic deal breakers, neither do people know their preferences (but they think they do), nor do the majority of preference categories actually matter.

   This is a common problem with all dating apps. Specifically, interests, hobbies, daily routines, objectives, etc. have nothing to do with compatibility.

   “We like the same things!” is the compatibility signal of a naive 22-yr old…

   1. SoftTalker · 1790824072 · focus · HN ↗

      It can also be a strong compatiblity signal. For example a person who likes to travel and a person who likes to stay home are not going to be happy together.

      What would really be good is if more couples went through premarital counseling to help them figure out if they have long-term compatibility or if they are just currently infatuated with each other. Infatuation can go on for years by the way, with the conflict only surfacing after there are kids and then divorce gets messy.

      1. crabbone · 1790869834 · focus · HN ↗

         My mom was a marriage councilor. Her marriage and the subsequent divorce were out of this world bad. She pretty much managed to hit almost every stereotypical negative behavior trait.

         In general, my experience with counseling, therapy, social workers et al. were that you might be better off spending the money on a rollecoaster ride. At least it's guaranteed to end.

         Especially the social workers. I have an impression that their exams have an inverted grading scale: you need to score below a certain threshold to graduate.

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