Singapore govt dating app uses Gale-Shapley stable marriage algorithm
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Singapore govt dating app uses Gale-Shapley stable marriage algorithm
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samiv · · focus · HN ↗
The same problem on every platform. 80% men and few women who get so picky that most men will never reach their standards.
I fear for most young men dating is over. And I fear what will happen when societies have large swathes of men with no connection to society, no jobs, no friends, no wives, no families.
stymaar · · focus · HN ↗
The key problem is that dating apps have no interest in their user finding a long term partner (and leaving the app), they are maximizing engagement, making male pay, make sure people have enough matches to keep their ego afloat and make them addicted to the app, but at no point a stable relationship is a desired outcome for Match group (yeah, because despite having many apps, most of them belong to the same corporation).
The world would be a much happier place if dating apps took success fees instead of a monthly subscription (good luck making that work as a business though).
samiv · · focus · HN ↗
That being said the women's problem is the overabundance of availability of men whereas the men's problem is that they get nothing. So women at least CAN go out on dates if they just choose to.
tirant · · focus · HN ↗
Top 20% of men settle with 20% of women. A new top of men takes over replacing the old one.
The main issue is that relationships don’t last. And that has to with the 20% of men not wanting to settle as they have free and abundant access to sex, which has been historically the primary reason for men to settle.
On top of that men are at their prime way longer than women: easily between 25 and 45. Women lose perceived value as sexual partners after 30/35 by many men.
stymaar · · focus · HN ↗
As I said before, the problem is as bad for women as for men, it's just different: women keep getting matched with men that won't form stable relationships, because the app doesn't want to give a relationship to women either (even if they often don't have to pay, and as such are not income stream for the app, they are the product being sold so the app need them to stick as long as possible).
There's no objective “Top 20% of men”, but there is indeed a small group of men that is being pushed down every women's throat on apps because they are the easy going one that will not threaten the app's business by entering a long term relationship.
samiv · · focus · HN ↗
You know one the nice guys who are always other wise ignored.