> A diagnosis of ADHD or autism in adulthood often leads to incredible relief and grief in processing all the moments of being blamed and shamed for what was assumed to be a lack of effort, laziness and/or defiance.
I never understood this sentiment. It's just who I am and always have been. And I learned to deal with the circumstances. I don't understand why it makes people feel better to have a diagnosis they can blame.
Perhaps it's a generational thing? I know as a manager it's pretty common for reports to cite them having ADHD as why they can't do this or that. Meanwhile I mentally roll my eyes thinking, "no shit, me too, but I manage to get this done"
No, it’s why I commented: you have authority over people, and you don’t seem to be seeking understanding, because of your own experience with the disorder.
In some areas and circumstances, your response can be problematic. You didn’t say what you do besides mentally rolling your eyes, but as an example: management ignoring an employee sharing a recognized disorder and requesting reasonable accommodation is the basic premise for a lawsuit.
I’m not saying this is happening here, but this is the kind of scenario management needs to be aware of and prepared for, specifically.
More generally, I would hope managers would be empathetic, but I also understand that this is rarely to never on the job description.
Edit: I see in another part of the thread that you seem to know all this, so nevermind. But I’ll leave this for others to understand that there is a responsibility, here.
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I never understood this sentiment. It's just who I am and always have been. And I learned to deal with the circumstances. I don't understand why it makes people feel better to have a diagnosis they can blame.
Perhaps it's a generational thing? I know as a manager it's pretty common for reports to cite them having ADHD as why they can't do this or that. Meanwhile I mentally roll my eyes thinking, "no shit, me too, but I manage to get this done"
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tfigueroa · · focus · HN ↗
In some areas and circumstances, your response can be problematic. You didn’t say what you do besides mentally rolling your eyes, but as an example: management ignoring an employee sharing a recognized disorder and requesting reasonable accommodation is the basic premise for a lawsuit.
I’m not saying this is happening here, but this is the kind of scenario management needs to be aware of and prepared for, specifically.
More generally, I would hope managers would be empathetic, but I also understand that this is rarely to never on the job description.
Edit: I see in another part of the thread that you seem to know all this, so nevermind. But I’ll leave this for others to understand that there is a responsibility, here.