My takeaway is SlutCon has successfully re-skinned The Argument Clinic. (<a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TpQlyUjp3vM" rel="nofollow">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TpQlyUjp3vM). Someone enters a commercialized, scheduled space to pay for a raw, spontaneous human experience, only to get trapped in an infuriating debate over the technical definition of the experience itself.
Or am I missing a read-between-the-lines that this event is really to facilitate successful Autistic people in flirting, dating, and relationships?
Being instructed in things you're bad at can be a humbling experience. Being corrected in a humbling way triggers an instinct, in some people, to try and argue with the correction.
When my 20-years-of-ballet ass goes to a salsa class, I get told I'm doing it all wrong, because I am. And every time I feel an instinct to say - how dare you call my perfect Balanchine hand position wrong? What do you mean we're going to face some random direction where the audience clearly won't be able to see our performance?
Obviously I keep my mouth shut; I am a complete beginner, and salsa is the instructor's area of expertise. The instinct to reject the instruction, the notion I know salsa better than them, is absurd. One has to clamp down on base instincts that tell one to do dumb things.
I don't think the attendees at SlutCon are supposed to argue with the people they're flirting with. They're supposed to flirt with them. The instinct to disagree and argue is them letting their bruised egos get the better of them.
schainks · · focus · HN ↗
My takeaway is SlutCon has successfully re-skinned The Argument Clinic. (<a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TpQlyUjp3vM" rel="nofollow">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TpQlyUjp3vM). Someone enters a commercialized, scheduled space to pay for a raw, spontaneous human experience, only to get trapped in an infuriating debate over the technical definition of the experience itself.
Or am I missing a read-between-the-lines that this event is really to facilitate successful Autistic people in flirting, dating, and relationships?
michaelt · · focus · HN ↗
When my 20-years-of-ballet ass goes to a salsa class, I get told I'm doing it all wrong, because I am. And every time I feel an instinct to say - how dare you call my perfect Balanchine hand position wrong? What do you mean we're going to face some random direction where the audience clearly won't be able to see our performance?
Obviously I keep my mouth shut; I am a complete beginner, and salsa is the instructor's area of expertise. The instinct to reject the instruction, the notion I know salsa better than them, is absurd. One has to clamp down on base instincts that tell one to do dumb things.
I don't think the attendees at SlutCon are supposed to argue with the people they're flirting with. They're supposed to flirt with them. The instinct to disagree and argue is them letting their bruised egos get the better of them.