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tqi · · focus · HN ↗
Or maybe this is just apophenia, with a sprinkle of confirmation bias.
ImaCake · · focus · HN ↗
sublinear · · focus · HN ↗
You can easily overlook details you meticulously labored over in the past and fail to appreciate how much of it is now way over your head. You cannot assume you're "better" today just because you have more experience.
In fact, experience does have a tendency to throw away critical insights and give an arrogant and false sense of confidence. This doesn't only apply to judging your own work either. Just because something "worked out" for you doesn't mean you were right. Just because someone less experienced than you tries a different approach doesn't mean it can't work or maybe even be better than what you think you know now.
How many people spend too much of their later lives settling for the same patterns over and over wondering where their creative edge went? There it is, and it's all because you thought you figured something out that you never really did.
ArcHound · · focus · HN ↗
sublinear · · focus · HN ↗
The more you capture, the better your chances of catching yourself later.
ArcHound · · focus · HN ↗
ImaCake · · focus · HN ↗
sublinear · · focus · HN ↗
I just felt compelled to elaborate since I think journaling can easily become toxic and narcissistic. I think we can all fall into that accidentally.
jrm4 · · focus · HN ↗
sublinear · · focus · HN ↗
If you don't have anything to add, why comment? Is your journal like this too?
rolymath · · focus · HN ↗
I sense a lot of frustration in your comment. Perhaps it would do you well to journal.
sublinear · · focus · HN ↗
You could have added to this discussion, but you instead chose to agitate. Why are you on here?
alexpotato · · focus · HN ↗
- You realize that your life was following an arc that you didn't realize at the time. e.g. you worked on similar projects, dated the same type of person etc but you can only see that when you look back in retrospection.
- Your perceived arc was really a series of random events in your life that you made the best of.
Both of these can be true because lives are complex and multifaceted. e.g. your dating life can be on an actual arc but your career can seem like an arc in hindsight but your diary shows that you just took whatever job seemed to be most interesting at the time.
blfr · · focus · HN ↗
We refuse to confront the problem head on so it instead comes up everywhere. A lot of things are like this. Repression only takes you so far.
k__ · · focus · HN ↗
panny · · focus · HN ↗
Personally, I empathize with the other bus riders who just want to get where they are going without being accosted.
mathgeek · · focus · HN ↗
soulofmischief · · focus · HN ↗
k__ · · focus · HN ↗
hexapus · · focus · HN ↗
I empathise with everyone I'm able, and recently struck up a friendship a Nigerian scammer as a result. After jerking him around for awhile, I broke him out of his script. Rather than blocking me or cursing me, I found a moment of sincerity. I told him that I understand the desperation of his situation, but that the people he was most likely to scam successfully would be others in similarly poor situations.
Suddenly, I was talking to a real person. A young man in a poor country with few other options...facing the loss of his already meager accommodations and the prospect of begging on the streets. A young man whose heart still hurt him when he hurt others. One who'd not yet been hardened by years of exploiting vulnerable people. I have cautiously continued talking to him and learning about him. He's respected every boundary I've placed to protect myself, and not pushed in any way, even preemptively rejecting what he interpreted as an attempt to send him gift cards at one point, when he misread the intent of my questions about the mechanics of the scam he had tried on me.
I learned he is quite skilled at designing and producing beautiful traditional garments, but has been unable to find a job that would allow him to take care of himself.
I'm now seeing if people I know might be interested in his clothing, and if he successfully delivers the garments they commission from him, I'll build and host a website for him to begin selling online and help him find other customers. It may not only lift him out of abject poverty, but give him to opportunity to elevate others and save them from the same spiral of despair in which he found himself...which would mean fewer grandmothers and vulnerable people being scammed in the future.
Granted, he could be running a long con on me...but even if so, I won't regret choosing empathy over judgement and anger, if only for the chance that it might make the world a slightly better place...even if just for one young man in a small city on the other side of the world.
underlipton · · focus · HN ↗
sublinear · · focus · HN ↗
Yes, I would have loved if this blog post elaborated on that more instead of repeatedly coming back to the topic of hostile architecture.
vladsiu · · focus · HN ↗
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amelius · · focus · HN ↗
We're all very familiar with the concept now. Good to know where it all started.