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1. mlinhares · 1790605778 · focus · HN ↗

   It has and parents are very much to blame for this.

   1. ihsw · 1790606409 · focus · HN ↗

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   2. micromacrofoot · 1790608059 · focus · HN ↗

      Society is to blame for this, lots of parents are also being crushed.

      We've cut the system down to the bone to fit the shape of two full-time employed parents, "women should be able to have careers too" has been perverted into some monkey's paw outcome.

      Somehow a 40 hour workweek supporting a family turned into two 40 hour workweeks supporting the same family instead of two 20 hour workweeks.

      We've let our productivity be stolen from us and relationships of many different forms have suffered as a result.

      1. mlinhares · 1790614924 · focus · HN ↗

         nah dude, my mom and dad both worked full time, if they ever dreamed i was disrespectful to a teacher i'd be grounded for a month.

         1. micromacrofoot · 1790616538 · focus · HN ↗

            I'm not debating whether or not some parents are able to do the right thing despite hardship or busy schedules. I'm sure there are thousands of people who will come out of the woodwork to tell me anecdotally that their single parent with every disadvantage would kick their ass if they looked at a teacher the wrong way.

            What I'm aiming to say is that given more time and space a lot of people who aren't good parents could be better parents. Some of them certainly would be.

            There used to be more space for parents in society (or at least a parent in a middle class double parent household), and we can have more space for this now without some tradwife reductionist nonsense. We have more resources than ever to help parents be good parents but they're very unevenly distributed. Resources for poor parents often focus on getting poor parents a job and childcare rather than spending time with kids, for example.

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