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I'm the mom in that viral Giants clip. Let me tell you about my husband

609 points · 241 comments · minimaxir

  1. criddell · · focus · HN ↗
    She’s a great writer.

    A lot of people owe this family an apology. Here’s a sampling of some of the vile comments left on Reddit.

    <a href="https:&#x2F;&#x2F;www.reddit.com&#x2F;r&#x2F;Fauxmoi&#x2F;comments&#x2F;1wpll52&#x2F;clip_of_a_woman_at_the_twins_vs_giants_game_goes&#x2F;" rel="nofollow">https:&#x2F;&#x2F;www.reddit.com&#x2F;r&#x2F;Fauxmoi&#x2F;comments&#x2F;1wpll52&#x2F;clip_of_a_...

    1. poly2it · · focus · HN ↗
      Wow, Reddit is horrible. Atrocious behavior. Leave your brains in the anteroom!

      &gt; Whoever sees this and it reminds them of their current relationship, DUMP HIM

      &gt; you can tell by the body language, lack of initiative, and lack of joy and welcome-ness for his woman and baby to be back, everything you need to know.

      &gt; There is a VERY good chance that when he realizes he went viral for being the *Poster Manchild* of taking your spouse for granted, of choosing to act like a parasitic blob

      Modern Reddit provides a simulacrum of commentary. There are posts and people discusing these posts, but nobody understands or wants to know anything about the underlying topic. The lack of comprehension is crucial to the community.

      1. tsol · · focus · HN ↗
        Its unfortunate because it&#x27;s not only one of the things that makes social media toxic, but it also makes it less and less like reality. Which in turn pushes away people who have more &quot;normal&quot; views, thereby making the community even more extreme over time. Ask a random person in the street and they might say they think he should help her, but they wouldn&#x27;t come up with these detailed narratives about abuse and manipulation. That kind of reaction is characteristic of social media and the more I see it the less I want to spend time online with those kinds of people
        1. dividefuel · · focus · HN ↗
          The other end feeds into itself too. Someone who posts something like that also is over-exposed to content enforcing that narrative. When you see your 50th video of the day of (e.g.) a man behaving in a way you don&#x27;t like, you eventually conclude that men are all bad, and your reactions begin to become more and more pronounced. You&#x27;re not reacting to that man, you&#x27;re reacting to every man!
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