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ath3nd · 1789895689 · focus · HN ↗
> DHH, you're not welcome in the Nuxt community, because you say that Black people aren't 'native Brits' and call for the mass deportation of 'gypsies'.
100% agree. Niceness is NOT for white supremacists, and no, I am not debating whether DHH's politics are fascist-adjacent or what % of them are pure fascism.
DHH's politics and the man himself will get only shunning and ridicule from me. He's, after all, one of the weird little guys of FOSS: <a href="https://drewdevault.com/weird-guys/" rel="nofollow">https://drewdevault.com/weird-guys/
1. tokioyoyo · 1789902828 · focus · HN ↗
  I have no idea why I clicked on that link, but honestly, it must be exhausting to try to care about that stuff consistently. Maybe I’ve gotten old, or have other priorities in life, but I can’t think of being so much into anyone’s yet alone FOSS people’s lives/choices/politics/etc.
  1. well_ackshually · 1789904052 · focus · HN ↗
    Half of these people are trying to actively make life worse for you, or someone you know. We care about that stuff because otherwise people like DHH will want to get you shot if you're black, or people like Stallman will want to sexually harass you if you're a woman.
    If you have the privilege of being able to forget about it: congratulations. If you're part of those potentially at risk: closing your eyes just makes their jobs easier.
    tokioyoyo · 1789911244 · focus · HN ↗
    Sure, but I kinda have other priorities in life which is more important to keep up, than FOSS influencers.
2. globular-toast · 1789902933 · focus · HN ↗
  Where's the list for people who would compile and publish a list of people who believe things they don't believe and call them "weird little guys"?
3. RobotToaster · 1789903180 · focus · HN ↗
  Your little unperson list loses all credibility when you include people like Louis Rossmann and Richard Stallman
  1. well_ackshually · 1789904242 · focus · HN ↗
    Rossmann might be a useful tool in fighting against companies, that doesn't change the fact that he's a gigantic asshole who regularly harasses people he disagrees with. In the same way, if Stallman could stop eating his toenails in public and saying that Epstein's victims were totally willing, maybe he would avoid being on that list.
    Lerc · 1789906437 · focus · HN ↗
    Eating toenails (autocorrect had tonsils here, where I might draw the line) in public is weird, weird should not be a reason for exclusion, we're all weird in some way.
    I don't think you're characterisation of what he said on the Epstein case is entirely accurate, but I think it did show a variety of inaccurate assumptions, biases, and added to an air of minimizing what happened. I can accept being uninformed an biased if an attempt to correct is made. I am unsure if I count his later statements as sufficient to address this for me.
    I do however think Stallman tends to be a bully in situations where he feels he can act with impunity. That's why I don't like him very much.
    That's just me though. I wouldn't tell others how to feel about it. That is what putting names on a list does. It demands that people decide based upon the list maker's reasons, not their own.
    globular-toast · 1789976946 · focus · HN ↗
    Stallman ate his toenail once. It must have been 20 years ago at this point, get over it. And he did not say anyone was totally willing. He said the victims probably presented themselves as willing. Learn to read and stop attributing words to someone incorrectly and completely out of context.
    someguynamedq · 1790007723 · focus · HN ↗
    If a pimp threatens and intimidates a prostitute into having sex with someone and forces them to act like they are willing, are they not still being assaulted when the act of sex occurs? If an act of sex is assault, is the other person not assaulting?
    Stallman comes across as discerning here because he's drawing a distinction between two things (sexually assaulting someone who is resisting vs sexually assaulting someone who is presenting as willing), but there is no real difference. The problem is not in his verbiage. The problem is that his underlying message is wrong.
    He is trying to create a rationalization for why minsky's reputation should not be harmed. If Minsky flew to Epstein's private island and had sex with a very young girl of unknown age, his reputation should be harmed whether or not she "presented as willing."
    globular-toast · 1790019810 · focus · HN ↗
    I'm not defending anyone or engaging in this discussion any further. I'm merely pointing out that Stallman did not say what the commenter above said.
LoganDark · 1789898909 · focus · HN ↗
It can be perfectly reasonable to remove people who are being completely inappropriate and/or egregiously insensitive. I think reducing it to simple politics is a distraction though. At the end of the day, people who are making everyone around them uncomfortable and causing everyone else to feel excluded/hated/marginalized probably deserve to learn that behavior is not tolerated, because that's often one of the only things that can get it to change.
Their opinions don't have to be political and your opinions don't have to be political. If someone is making the space worse for everyone, then maybe they're not good for the space. Maybe the space is not good for them. You would be doing good for both sides by stopping them from harming the space, and stopping the space from further enabling the problematic behavior.
I have personal experience with not changing until it became clear enough that certain behavior was driving away everyone and everything I care about. It didn't matter to me how much people told me it was bad, or tried to convince me to stop. What worked was seeing people leave over it, over and over, until I couldn't take it anymore. I had to change. You would be helping these kinds of people, and the community at large, by seeing to the consequences of their actions.
1. basilikum · 1789902409 · focus · HN ↗
  Why is your bar that they must be hurtful to everyone? What do you suggest to do when they direct the same behavior only a certain group in the space? You say that it does not have to be political and I agree, but what if it is? What if they see that group as a legitimate target for political reasons?
  1. LoganDark · 1789902787 · focus · HN ↗
    It's easier to make my point about behavior that is unquestionably harmful. Nothing I said can't extend to less clear-cut cases; honestly my entire point is that you should weigh decisions like this based on whether behavior is harmful to the community (or vice versa) rather than based on either side's "politics".
    > What if they see that group as a legitimate target for political reasons?
    It doesn't matter. I wouldn't engage with whether or not they think they're acting in a justified manner. If the behavior won't stop, the behavior is harmful, and the community would be better off without it, then sometimes you just have to kick someone out.
    The reason why I say politics are a distraction is because I don't think you need to bother to justify why someone is politically incorrect or why your own politics are less so. You can, but none of that is actually relevant in a majority of cases. Removing someone from a community is not about being more correct or about them being incorrect, it's about the safety of the community (and/or the safety of whoever you're removing).
    XorNot · 1789903364 · focus · HN ↗
    For the better part of two decades I frequented a particular forum, and one of the most common reasons people tended to eventually get banned wasn't because of any particularly egregious political opinion, but because whatever opinion they held they tended to turn every thread they participated in anywhere into either a thread about that or a thread about them.
2. neuroticnews25 · 1789905537 · focus · HN ↗
  What if the space becomes a bit of an echo chamber when it comes to some topic and a person shows up with wildly different views, asks sharp questions and it becomes clear the community not used to having its beliefs argued doesn't have good answers? Negative valence arises through no fault of anybody. I've seen this happen multiple times. Utilitarian solution would be banning them, but it feels unjust.
  1. LoganDark · 1789910277 · focus · HN ↗
    I think the manner in which you ask the questions is important, but I also think that community response is important too. Some questions just could be phrased a lot better, and some communities just could be a lot friendlier to curiosity.
    The right solution for that specific situation varies:
    - if the questions are valid but they're just phrased in a very uncomfortable way, I'd like to see someone work with them on how to ask better. Note that by "better" I don't mean that there's an objectively better or worse way in general, but just that some communities are friendlier to different approaches, and for example, you can often get a lot more mileage out of trying to understand someone's current approach first, rather than immediately asking why they don't use yours, or immediately raising a bunch of issues you see with it. I may be misunderstanding what you mean by "sharp", but I've seen and helped with this before.
    - if the discomfort just comes from generally questions existing or alternative views being expressed at all, then sometimes the community's just not a good fit for those views. Some communities are pretty closed to alternative approaches, and sometimes that's just the way it is. I mean, the way you describe an "echo chamber" can of course imply that it's pretty harmful to its participants (one example is polarization on social media), but you can't always just invade those spaces and expect to change the status quo. You can't help everyone, and a lot of people feel insulted when you claim to know what is or isn't good for them. Sometimes people just stop asking questions or stop expressing alternative views at all, just to avoid being ejected (one example is how cancel culture can be incredibly harmful to developing minds). I think that should be avoided if possible, though...
    There are probably more variations on this, but those are the two biggest possibilities I see. Either the behavior of the individual is a problem, and should be addressed (there's usually no need to remove them immediately, if there's a way to address the behavior instead), or the behavior of the community is a problem, and the individual might be better off looking elsewhere.
jstummbillig · 1789902512 · focus · HN ↗
> 'unaware.' [...] I think that is a little bit of what it is to be nice.
Me, not being nice: Don't use language to be priggish and confuse. We got enough of that going already.
le-mark · 1789902568 · focus · HN ↗
I told my children “you don’t have to be nice. I expect you to be cordial and respectful. Don’t be a door mat that people walk on.”
I fully expect immigration to grow as an issue in the coming years. Global warming and climate change may make immigrants of those currently deriding immigrants today.
Gigachad · 1789902655 · focus · HN ↗
It is disturbing how all of these people in tech like DHH and Elon have been so vile and all dropped the facade at the same time.
1. archagon · 1789922249 · focus · HN ↗
  When the tides inevitably turn, where will they go? The bridge is fully burned; no takebacksies on white supremacy.
  1. Gigachad · 1789939769 · focus · HN ↗
    Elon should go to prison for his crimes. DHH probably has enough money to keep vibe coding his Arch fork for a while.
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rfutility · 1789902768 · focus · HN ↗
Why is DHH's comment on black people not being native brits so controversial?
I've got a feeling that the author does not hold the same opinion when it comes to white europeans not being native americans.
1. wdwddwdwd · 1789903056 · focus · HN ↗
  Well black people can be citizens, they can be born in the UK. In additon, which "Native Brits" are indigenous to the UK, and do we need to look at how much French/Roman blood etc.?
  White Europeans are of course not native to US or Australia.
  1. bbg2401 · 1789908973 · focus · HN ↗
    Look, either you loosen your understanding of native to be the region you are born, or you tighten it to mean precisely indigenous.
    None of the populations of North America, Australia or the British Isles are indigenous by any neutral definition of the term. Populations have migrated and settled these regions over thousands of years.
    You are a native of a nation if you are born within its borders. It is that simple.
2. garbagewoman · 1789903379 · focus · HN ↗
  “Native Americans” is a term that is not directly comparable to “Native Brits” and you know it
  1. bbg2401 · 1789908034 · focus · HN ↗
    Can you clarify why? I believe native anything is a flawed concept since a human, let alone an entire ethnicity, does not grow from the soil. Populations have moved, migrated and settled throughout our entire history.
    garbagewoman · 1789932067 · focus · HN ↗
    Native American is a well established name for a group of people. “Native Brit” means nothing
  2. stasomatic · 1789925861 · focus · HN ↗
    It shouldn't even be a term, it sounds fake politically correct, as does "First Nations". It's "indigenous". They were here, someone else came ashore and the Comanche got horses and Winchesters.
    Not like the Comanche and the Apache were besties, nor the Iroquois and Mohican. What about the Inuit? They are like Siberian expats, but still indigenous, but somehow not on the list? Just musing here.
    What's a native Brit? Robyn Hood? A Viking? :)
3. well_ackshually · 1789903872 · focus · HN ↗
  Because DHH openly calls for murder of "immigrants" (read: non white people, even if they've been there for decades and been more productive members of society than DHH has ever been.), and it's not even a dogwhistle anymore.
  >When wolves get out of control, you shoot them. When gypsies take over public spaces, you deport them. This isn't hard, it isn't cruel. It's the basic logic of self-preservation.
  (in addition, the concept of Native <any european country> is nonsensical. Europe is at the confluence of migrations and has been for millenia. Attributing "whiteness" as a distinctive attribute of europeans is at best ignorant, and at worst another racist rally point. Go tell the greeks they're white, see how they like it.)
  1. graemep · 1789906216 · focus · HN ↗
    Americans have a problem understanding this because race and racism is so embedded in their culture. I just been reading and hearing about American *historians" who claim "Anglo-Saxon" is a racist term (in the context of discussing medieval history) because they anachronistically see it through the modern American lens of "whiteness" that is a result of American history and politics.
4. neuroticnews25 · 1789904253 · focus · HN ↗
  Sounds like Americans projecting their problematic racial relations to the rest of the world.
5. graemep · 1789904402 · focus · HN ↗
  That is not all he said, and the context of the UK and the US is different - for a start there is no clear divide between native and not. Are the Germanic English native, or Normans, etc? Does anyone say that white Americans are not proper Americans. Does DHH hate American cities because native Americans are a minority?
  More importantly he said a lot more. He objects to London (that has always been a cosmopolitan city, especially in its centre) having too many people who are not ethnically "white British" and quotes numbers that excludes everyone who is not pure English, Welsh or Scottish - he excludes even the Irish, and, of course, people of mixed race.
  The claim that London has greatly changed in nonsense. I grew up there and it feels exactly the same as it did in the 1980s. He talks about "A statistic as evident as day when you walk the streets of London now." i.e. he seems more brown faces than he likes. The interesting thing is that none of my childhood friends from London have a problem with this.
  He supports and quotes various bigots (such as Tommy Robinson and Rupert Lowe) and takes what they say as fact. These are people who believe in white replacement theory, and are anti-immigrant to the extent of wanting ethnic cleansing.
alwa · 1789902787 · focus · HN ↗
Time and a place. I only see these kind of online spats refracted through people’s reactions like this one. Invariably I find myself asking how someone’s unattractive idea even came up there in the first place…
Over my time in the world I have chafed against the boundaries of “professionalism” and “courtesy” and “a valid topic but not what we’re here to discuss right now”… but… sure seems like those might help here.
Maybe it’s the old-school small-l liberal in me, but I feel like we lost something socially constructive in dissolving the boundaries between public and private thoughts, school and work and home and pub and church thoughts, the office and the flawed human occupying the office…
28304283409234 · 1789902907 · focus · HN ↗
If a technology is not considered political that should be the very first thing we should change about it.
1. eis3nheim · 1789903118 · focus · HN ↗
  It's always been political and always will be, whether people believed or not. And now matter what is being done on the ground to make it otherwise, it will always be in vain.
globular-toast · 1789902958 · focus · HN ↗
Isn't DHH just not being nice?
1. kova12 · 1789903708 · focus · HN ↗
  Oh no, it only works one way. When one starts signaling virtue, there's nothing wrong he can possibly do
b3n4kh · 1789903137 · focus · HN ↗
I don’t have much nice to say about this article.
Comparing DHH to a Nazi, which you obviously intended by choosing your “unrelated wink wink start example, is just bullshit.
“Black people are not native Brits” so very obvious facts are now radical?
1. zulux · 1789925534 · focus · HN ↗
  White people are not allowed to have a homeland.
  1. preg_match · 1789929187 · focus · HN ↗
    White British people are not native Brits, a term that basically means nothing anyway. Britain invaded and colonized many other countries over the course of centuries - of course those black people are British now. Where do you draw the line? 100 years? 200? 500?
    Or, do you draw it arbitrarily such that all the white people count as native, but the people of color do not? That would be awfully convenient.
    Native American works as a concept because there was an American people, for thousands of years, isolated before colonization. It doesn’t work that way for Europe, in which many populations have roamed through Europe for millennia.
    “Gypsies” and such are not invaders, the brown people of Europe have been there for a very long time. And, many (most?) white people in Europe are not “pure” white. What, you think those Romani and Indian people existed in Europe for hundreds of years with no mixing? Come on now.
basicoperation · 1789903210 · focus · HN ↗
By this logic every person born in North America is a Native American.
Of course, this criticism is very popular amongst Scots who live in Scotland which is still overwhelmingly Scottish even in the major cities.
1. garbagewoman · 1789903526 · focus · HN ↗
  “Native American” is not used in the way that you are using it
2. graemep · 1789905659 · focus · HN ↗
  There is a difference between saying that people are ethnically native, and that only properly belong if they are ethnically native. What DHH is doing is the equivalent of saying that white (or black or Asian, or whatever) people are not real Americans.
3. SarcevicAntonio · 1789942315 · focus · HN ↗
  native america isn't a freaking country???
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sajithdilshan · 1789903291 · focus · HN ↗
I totally agree that one can decide for themselves to be nice or not nice to anyone, but I wonder as adults is it the right course of action to block/kick someone out as soon as they disagree with you or say, write something you don’t like or when just simply have a difference of opinion. I think that’s very childish and when did we stopped simply to agree to disagree and move forward.
The example in the post is quite obvious with Nazi symbolism. But what if someone express their opinion, which is very conservative, or nationalistic like as an example I love Switzerland and I want Swiss people to prosper and have everything. Would that be inclusive because they are excluding rest of the world?
1. plastic-enjoyer · 1789904169 · focus · HN ↗
  > The example in the post is quite obvious with Nazi symbolism.
  Why can't we be adults and agree to disagree on Nazism? If I think Hitler did nothing wrong and you think Hitler was the most evil man on this planet, why can't we just treat this as a difference in opinion and just build cool stuff together?
  1. sajithdilshan · 1789904581 · focus · HN ↗
    I think in that case I would agree to disagree and move forward our separate ways. We both can have difference of opinion, that’s fine because everyone is entitled to their opinion, but doesn’t mean we have to work/build anything together
    plastic-enjoyer · 1789905516 · focus · HN ↗
    Yes, however, the adult thing would be to still work together instead of excluding the other person from whatever you are working on. So, why wouldn't you be willing to overcome this difference in opinion, and work together with this person to build something awesome?
    sajithdilshan · 1789906580 · focus · HN ↗
    Because that’s personal preference. Everyone has their own personal preferences and that should be respected as well.
    plastic-enjoyer · 1789910217 · focus · HN ↗
    So, we have that you differ in opinions, and you'd prefer not to work with him. That's fair, you don't have to work with everyone. But if I understand you right, you'd happily build something with someone who disagrees with you, e.g. someone with strong nationalistic views about their own country, to use your own example. So what is it about "Hitler did nothing wrong" specifically that puts it on the other side of a line that one doesn't cross?
    sajithdilshan · 1789913066 · focus · HN ↗
    > "Hitler did nothing wrong" specifically that puts it on the other side of a line that one doesn't cross
    Basically supporting mass murder of innocent people or seeing nothing wrong with killing innocent people
    plastic-enjoyer · 1789942401 · focus · HN ↗
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  2. mzajc · 1789917425 · focus · HN ↗
    Perhaps it's because thinking a genocidal maniac "did nothing wrong" says a lot about your character, your views on society, and what kind of "stuff" you find "cool".
    mmmmmbop · 1789918342 · focus · HN ↗
    Would you feel the same way if somebody thought Caesar or Scipio Aemilianus were cool?
plastic-enjoyer · 1789903315 · focus · HN ↗
> They accused me of being 'political' – the very thing an open source project shouldn't be, I'm told. It only divides people. Let's just focus on the technology. Surely we can all get behind building amazing, fast, cool websites!
I would argue that picking an obviously Nazi-coded avatar is in itself political. It is a deliberate decision to select such an avatar. Nobody picks that symbol by accident. They know exactly what it signals, they know how people will react, and they know that the laissez-faire culture of tech is a perfect ground to normalize this shit.
If there is a not being political rule, then it is perfectly reasonable to ban people like this because they obviously are political.
voiper1 · 1789903470 · focus · HN ↗
Sounds like the paradox of tolerance. Being tolerant of intolerant people just gives them a platform to spread their intolerance.
jan_m_savage · 1789903668 · focus · HN ↗
Of course I agree with OP that one can't be nice to Nazis. But he should have also mentioned that one should not be nice to anyone who kills innocent humans. Not just the Nazis.
EDIT: is there something wrong with my statement? Don't be a coward and downvote silently. Tell me how what I wrote is wrong?
1. zulux · 1789925668 · focus · HN ↗
  Some types of mass murder is justifiable if it's done by the correct people
  1. jan_m_savage · 1789962713 · focus · HN ↗
    Some types?/ Which types moron?
  2. jan_m_savage · 1789964864 · focus · HN ↗
    Are you being sarcastic or are you a midwit?
    zulux · 1790606912 · focus · HN ↗
    Poe's law man... :)
2. ath3nd · 1789939730 · focus · HN ↗
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3. someguynamedq · 1790008213 · focus · HN ↗
  I'm not voting either way on your comment (I don't have downvote rights), but it's clear to me why it's being downvoted, so I'll say it if they're not.
  The Nazi example was clear and useful in the original post. It's a thing that almost everyone will be on the same side of. The point is that it is an extreme example, not the most generic possible example, in order to demonstrate the point that "there exists at least one scenario where being nice is not mandatory."
  Because the original example was already sufficient for the purpose, it comes across as suspect that you are suggesting that he should not have used it as an example. The natural suspicion would be that you are in some way trying to blur the separation between Nazis and run of the mill murderers of innocents, I.e. implying perhaps that they are not much worse than others.
  I don't know what your intent is, but many believe Nazis to be much worse than ordinary innocent killers, so your statement implying they are the same is probably rubbing those people the wrong way
neuroticnews25 · 1789903738 · focus · HN ↗
People openly signaling they don't care about your feelings and rules are rarely missed. But as a former antisocial outcast myself, I always try to be nice to everyone and show them the light, prefer warnings to kicks and kicks to bans. Politics is really not that serious, decent people can have wildly different views.
1. ycsucks5 · 1789908751 · focus · HN ↗
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2. ascorbic · 1789915053 · focus · HN ↗
  > Politics is really not that serious
  Really?
3. mzajc · 1789916753 · focus · HN ↗
  > Politics is really not that serious, decent people can have wildly different views.
  What kind of views we're talking about are and how serious said politics are can vary greatly from situation to situation. From TFA:
  > I kicked someone from the Nuxt Discord who had chosen an avatar (for the second time!) of a man in a Nazi uniform.
4. ath3nd · 1789926859 · focus · HN ↗
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TacticalCoder · 1789904950 · focus · HN ↗
I've got a family of all colors (with half-black and half-asian nephews) and we speak many languages at home.
I do believe however we should be allowed to criticize religions and I do believe we should be allowed to criticize religions without being labelled "racist".
For example I'll point out the incredible hypocrisy of the left in the west who raised me, in an atheist school, with the notion that christianity was a scam and where christians were being made fun of all around me (by my parents, by my friends, by my friends' parents, by my teachers, etc.).
And that same left in the west, who celebrates that christianity lost its grip on the people, is now bending over backwards over islam.
Another gigantic hypocrisy in Europe (and in the UK) is that free speech is not a given. And hateful speech is definitely not allowed... Unless it's hate speech protected by the fact that it's in a religious book.
And another, totally off the chart, hypocrisy in the west is the feminist and the LGBTQ2S+ movements who are constantly after heterosexual male... Unless they're muslims, in which case it's suddenly all cool to put a veil on your wife(s) (polygamy being allowed, but only one man / several women and not the other way round: oh the hypocrisy here) and daugther(s) so that they're safe from the looks of other men.
It's a very long article saying that people who oppose islam are basically deranged.
Now I do profundly believe that unless you've read the quran, you shouldn't comment on islam.
I did read it and I suggest you do the same and then make up your own mind.
Now as I'm not nice I'll put it blundly: I think the quran is just as bad as Hitler's Mein Kampf. But because it's "religious", the hate speech it contains is protected and allowed.
And we're basically at a point in Europe where if you point out that the quran is full of hate speech, your criticism is considered hate speech. But the real hate speech is totally cemented and impossible to attack because it's "religious".
You should at the very least read the quran and see where I'm coming from.
The world CIA factbook (not published anymore) estimated that 30% of all muslims worldwide had extremist views. I understand that 30% is not 100%, but 30% of nearly 2 billion people is a very big number.
To be very clear: either the muslim beard or the veil are already extremist readings of the quran and its hadiths.
Go read the book for yourself.
It is not normal that after 1200 teenagers who were dancing at a music festival were slaughtered by islamist terrorists, a big part of the world celebrated.
We're talking about tens of millions, maybe hundreds of millions, of people who were genuinely happy that "evil jews got what they deserve" because it was "justified resistance".
I'm not talking about what came next: I'm against killing people, no matter who does the killing.
Now I'm not saying that that UK dude who wants to "ban islam" is a good person.
But there's really a very big spread spectrum between "ban islam" and "there's zero problem with islam growing in the west".
And there's definitely an issue when speech is censored, but the absolute worst form of hate speech is protected because it's a religious holy book.
Go read the quran, now.
1. archagon · 1789922412 · focus · HN ↗
  I think you’re mistaking “agreeing with Islam” with “standing against prejudice.”
  No liberal I know agrees with the tenants of Islam. But they might have Muslim friends who catch a lot of flak for no reason other than belonging to an outgroup.
  1. mkeedlinger · 1790003353 · focus · HN ↗
    If they don’t agree with the tenants of it, seems like association or “being nice” to those friends is off the table.
    At least, that’s what seems to me to be the logical conclusion of what the article espouses.
    I’d guess that there are instances where the author would and would not agree the line is, but I also think that the subjectives of that line is where people might take issue with this article.
    someguynamedq · 1790007835 · focus · HN ↗
    If you aren't friends with anyone you have a disagreement with, you are friends with no one.
    archagon · 1790024223 · focus · HN ↗
    That doesn't make any sense.
    First, Islam is as diverse as any global religion. Some branches of it are far more liberal than others. There is no central authority.
    Second, even if someone is a member of a conservative religion, it's not necessarily the case that they're an asshole or a bigot. Most people just want to live quietly in peace.
graemep · 1789905202 · focus · HN ↗
I am one of these people that DHH says in not "native British". I agree he is an unpleasant racist.
I do think that the case of the person using a Nazi avatar on a forum is comparable. The former is something they are doing withing the community, DHH's behaviour is outside the community. Its not clear how much people should be sanctioned for holding unpleasant views.
The problem with the article is clear in this passage:
"Sometimes a political party or a person decides to oppose shared human values like the importance of care, kindness, inclusion, or the simple value of welcoming people who are different from you. Maybe they oppose the equality of all people. Maybe they think some people do not deserve human rights."
That very quickly becomes a subjective and partisan judgement. Its very easy to say everyone who votes for a different party is "opposed to equality", or that people who do not share you culture or language and vocabulary or vote for any other party are those you should not be nice to. Very often the inclusive becomes exclusive and even culturally imperialist. Foreigner who uses the wrong words because they do not have the same implications in their culture? Excluded. This is not made, but, but something I have seen people get angry about.
1. sensen7 · 1789910841 · focus · HN ↗
  You seem to be betting on this strategy that words can keep being changed to mean anything you want depending on the political context, forever, but at some point it will just make you look insane. "Native British" is not something ambiguous that's a matter of opinion or that goes into quotes, any more than Native American ever was.
  1. graemep · 1789912823 · focus · HN ↗
    Of course it is. Give me a definition of "native British" that is as clear as the meaning of "native American".
    You are trying to a complex reality into as a simplistic (American?) world view.
    Also, its normal to use quotation marks when quoting someone.
    zulux · 1789925400 · focus · HN ↗
    Someone who built Britain before the jet age.
    graemep · 1789997000 · focus · HN ↗
    Your definition includes a lot of people excluded by DHH's definition which proves my point about the impossibility of coming up with a definition people can agree on.
    What do you mean by "built"? What would someone have to do to qualify? What do you man by "someone"? No one born in the last 70 years built anything before the jet age. If you mean their ancestors, what proportion of their ancestors?
    So up to the mid 20th century? Completely arbitrary. Why not by the start of the 20th century, or the start of the 19th century, or after the Norman conquest, or the people who were native to the country at the time of the the Roman invasion?
  2. ascorbic · 1789915572 · focus · HN ↗
    There is no definition of "native British", just as is the case for most of Europe. The "native" population has changed repeatedly for thousands of years. This isn't like America where there was a native population that was largely displaced in the past 400 years
    sensen7 · 1789919700 · focus · HN ↗
    Being displaced has nothing to do with native or not native. If nobody ever got displaced and there was just a small minority of European-descended Americans concentrated in one place, the common understanding of which ones are the native Americans wouldn't change.
    The fact that the native population of Britain changed repeatedly thousands of years ago doesn't seem very relevant either. Are you saying that if new evidence showed that the native populations of America or Australia were the result of multiple ancient waves of migration rather than just one, that would change anyone's mind on which ones are truly the native Americans or Australians? That's obviously absurd.
    If you really want to turn this apparently simple discussion about the common meaning of words into a matter of first-principles definitions, I guess I could give it a try, and it would probably have to bring in things like whether the waves of migration retained a significant identification with their place of origin. But it seems totally unnecessary.
    graemep · 1789921971 · focus · HN ↗
    > if new evidence showed that the native populations of America or Australia were the result of multiple ancient waves of migration rather than just one, that would change anyone's mind on which ones are truly the native Americans or Australians?
    Not if they were truly ancient because they would still all have been there tens of thousands of years.
    If you can find a still distinct pre-Columbian group who migrated there in the last millennium or two I would agree they are not an indigenous population.
    > The fact that the native population of Britain changed repeatedly thousands of years ago
    Not changed repeatedly thousands of years ago. kept changing repeatedly for all over the last few thousand years.
    One of the British politicians who DHH likes quoted status about the number of people in the country who are not ethnically white British. The definition he used classifies people like the King and Winston Churchill as not British. He became very evasive when ashed about this in an interview <a href="https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2026/08/07/rupert-lowe-restore-white-briton-churchill-harry-kane/" rel="nofollow">https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2026/08/07/rupert-lowe-rest...
    sensen7 · 1789923013 · focus · HN ↗
    >If you can find a still distinct pre-Columbian group who migrated to the Americas in the last millennium or two I would agree they are not an indigenous population.
    That's not really what the argument is about, it's about whether such a group would invalidate the concept of "native American" entirely such that it wouldn't be meaningful to distinguish between the native Americans or the non-native European Americans. That's effectively what you're arguing for Britain, and it's absurd.
    graemep · 1789924408 · focus · HN ↗
    Its not what I am arguing at all
    sensen7 · 1789925807 · focus · HN ↗
    What are you arguing then?
    >Britsh history simply makes it impossible to come up with a sensible definition of indigenous
    Taking the example of the Normans that you mentioned somewhere else in the thread, what's the difference between them and your hypothetical pre-Columbian group? Why does the Normans make it impossible to come up with a sensible definition of indigenous when another migration wave arrives, while the hypothetical pre-Columbians don't?
    graemep · 1789984300 · focus · HN ↗
    I am arguing there is no clear break at which you can reach a consensus.
    Suppose groups that had reached the Americas before Columbus, such as the Norse, probably Polynesians, possibly others, had settled in large numbers instead of just a fleeting contact, and that had happened repeatedly since the first peopling of the Americas, and some of the groups had merged with earlier groups, and some had not, then how would you define a native American?
    This is exactly what you have in the UK. I notice you have ignored my comment asking you to provide a clear definition of native British. Given that most saves of immigration to the UK have merged into existing populations do specify how much of people's ancestry needs to be whatever you call "native" for it to count.
    sensen7 · 1790085586 · focus · HN ↗
    >then how would you define a native American?
    In the context of the wave of post-1492 European migration to America, I would define it to mean as anyone who isn't coming from that specific migration wave. It would remain easy, so long as the specific migration wave is still easy to distinguish from the the others.
    You're now saying explicitly that if some new archeological evidence showed multiple waves of Polynesians in large numbers, then you would suddenly have trouble defining the distinction between a native American and an European in the post-1492 context, but this still seems completely absurd to me. So I'm afraid I don't really know what you're talking about.
    The point that I was making is that this is the "definition" I would use for Britain as well, when discussing a very specific phenomenon of modern migration into Britain. Anyone who was there before the modern wave counts as native. As with all attempted formal definitions of real world phenomena, you can keep digging at and asking whether e.g. the Polish or Irish waves of immigration are distinct from the "current" ones that people are talking about. But there shouldn't be any doubts about the Normans 1000 years ago any more than there would be about the hypothetical Polynesians.
2. jauntywundrkind · 1789918969 · focus · HN ↗
  I agree it's subjective. For now, I think that amplifies the need. If people have conflicting views, fine, state yours as you are kicking out the Nazis and other genocidal turds.
  If that starts cutting the wrong way: so be it. It itself should be visible even if the kicker is doing this practice. Their "good" will not be so believable, it will damage the kicker too.
0manrho · 1789911932 · focus · HN ↗
Fully agreed.
This "Let's avoid politics" is just "Let's avoid conflict resolution and let things fester until it all boils over and goes to shit"
If you break the social contract of granting everyone a common baseline of respect and civility, such as by identifying with those that explicitly wish to violently purge entire peoples from the planet, I no longer am obligated to grant them the decorum outlined in that same social contract, as they've violated the accord.
satisfice · 1789916066 · focus · HN ↗
This is a post about someone marketing their personal values: asserting their importance, suggesting we should all share them, and suggesting that certain alternative values should be rudely suppressed.
It’s not an argument, though. I don’t come away with any reason not to NICELY oppose Nazi sympathizers.
I am not especially nice, and I don’t trust most people who behave nicely. But this post is banal. You can do better.
1. someguynamedq · 1790006617 · focus · HN ↗
  This comes across as pedantic purity testing. It's also ironic and hypocritical because you're not being nice.
tim333 · 1789927133 · focus · HN ↗
I find the article a bit virtue signaling.
1. soganess · 1789940598 · focus · HN ↗
  Yes. The virtue of not being nice to Nazis. I want people signaling that. I don't care why they are signaling it, I support it.
  You know that insufferable friend who won't stop talking about the starving kids in XYZ? And you know how they donated five dollars that one time and just won't let you forget it? Yeah, well, at least that a*hat gave five dollars.
  I'd rather have the Bonos of the world making mountains out of the molehills of aid they provide than hang out with people so cool and disaffected that they only see the virtue signaling and discount the virtue.
  Just like you, I see the virtue signaling as gauche, but I think calling it out without any substance is just as gauche.
  1. tim333 · 1789946098 · focus · HN ↗
    My family parlty got gassed by the actual nazis. I'm pretty anti them. But:
    >pretty bad taste in my mouth even to imagine using the product of someone who's suggested that Black and Asian Londoners make Britain worse
    You should shun anyone how suggests they might prefer less immigration in London? If you are being honest that's like 50% of Brits he's saying are untouchables.
    someguynamedq · 1790006300 · focus · HN ↗
    You're making a category error. Black/Asian != immigrant in Britain. White != non-immigrant in Britain. Otherwise you'd be saying a black guy whose family has been in Britain for 500 years is more of an immigrant than a Polish guy who moved there last Tuesday.
joshwcomeau · 1789941680 · focus · HN ↗
I already held Daniel in high esteem, but I respect him so much for posting this. Couldn't agree more.

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